Debby: i always hate the women of 24...except Kate
and Chloe.
Richard: thats cause women are inherently evil and grow penises in positions of power but don't know how to use it properly.
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Season 7 Trailer for 24 is out!!!
I'm so excited!!!!!!!!!!! January 13 baby!!
Saturday, October 27, 2007
Dane Cook
I love Dane Cook. I've listened to him on audio but he's fricken awesome on video. This is the Brain Ninjas clip.
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Baby Genius
This little girl is awesome. I am sooo getting my little girl to do this when I have one. So cute.
This one is amazing too. Little asian girl
F** you Miss Carolina Teen USA!!
(notice that video is in the "related" videos part. =)
Here is Miss Carolina in comparison to these 2 year olds.
This one is amazing too. Little asian girl
F** you Miss Carolina Teen USA!!
(notice that video is in the "related" videos part. =)
Here is Miss Carolina in comparison to these 2 year olds.
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Friday, October 26, 2007
Luxury Air Travel
A double bed with champagne, lobster, and a crew of 30 waiting on you from your own suite in an AIRPLANE?! Where's my suga daddy, I want to travel in THIS style!
Luxury Jet Airliner
Luxury Jet Airliner
Drinking Stories That Put Yours to Shame
This is one of the best and most interesting CNN articles I've seen in a long time.
These stories are historical too!
Drinking Stories by CNN.
These stories are historical too!
Drinking Stories by CNN.
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I Converted to Mac
I saw the Leopard work. I am sooooo converting to Mac now. Mac Book Pro is what I want. 15 beautiful inches. The OS is absolutely phenomenal but I am still in PC mode. I think it's time to change for the better.
Now I just have to scrap enough money for it and I'm there. I got the hook ups, the IT, the lessons all ready to go.
My only problem is finding the time to learn the system and use it to my best ability. I can't seem to find enough time in law school but I think that my beautiful old Dell is about to go obsolete on me one of these days. Last night, I spent hours and hours with my favorite IT guy reinstalling Windows, cleaning Microsoft junk, and reinstalling programs to my virus infested computer. However, it came with a price. I had to listen to his scpeel on the greatest OS ever, the Leopard, and to be honest, it worked. I'm sold.
I'm in an emotional bind. I admit, I'm emotionally attached to my cherry-wood covered Dell and if I give it up, it'll go to one of my computer illiterate family members. So sad.
Should I go for it? or wait until summer to get it and learn it then?
MacBook Pro
Now I just have to scrap enough money for it and I'm there. I got the hook ups, the IT, the lessons all ready to go.
My only problem is finding the time to learn the system and use it to my best ability. I can't seem to find enough time in law school but I think that my beautiful old Dell is about to go obsolete on me one of these days. Last night, I spent hours and hours with my favorite IT guy reinstalling Windows, cleaning Microsoft junk, and reinstalling programs to my virus infested computer. However, it came with a price. I had to listen to his scpeel on the greatest OS ever, the Leopard, and to be honest, it worked. I'm sold.
I'm in an emotional bind. I admit, I'm emotionally attached to my cherry-wood covered Dell and if I give it up, it'll go to one of my computer illiterate family members. So sad.
Should I go for it? or wait until summer to get it and learn it then?
MacBook Pro
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Sunday, October 21, 2007
Antioxidants
All-Star foods that are great for you although you may not know it. Herbs, veggies, nuts, etc.
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Saturday, October 20, 2007
"Whatever!"
Baby Ally Whatever!
This little asian girl is sooooo cute!
This is bad for later but sooo cute for now.
This little asian girl is sooooo cute!
This is bad for later but sooo cute for now.
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Friday, October 19, 2007
Arabic into Art
Amazing Artist Kinda Hibrawi uses Arabic words as art, incorporating beautiful words with abstract art.
"The Most Beautiful Names of God"
"Serenity"
“A good act for a good act, and the initiator is the more generous”
The Artist herself Kinda Hibrawi
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Sunday, October 14, 2007
Monday, October 08, 2007
Burger King Kickin' Chicken
Kickin' Chicken on youtube. Stupid...but it's ninja chicken so I had to post it.
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One Laptop Per Child
The link to more information on One Laptop Per Child is on the title. You can also access it here XO Giving. This is one of the coolest things I've ever seen in my life. For a girl, you all know how much of a gadget geek I am. I was just informed of how this works and I am so excited. Originally, the idea was to make this laptop cost only $100, hence the "hundred dollar laptop" name that has started to spread on the web. Now, it costs $188, a small rise to accomodate the features that are not worth loosing. They didn't want to loose any fundamentally good features so a little more is not that bad at all. The ratio of the cost compared to what you get is amazing. I definitely want to invest in something like this.
This is a new innovation of a laptop that can withstand water, dirt, dust, and impact. It is also really small and compact, filled with everything you may need on the go. The BEST part about this computer is that it is designed for thrid world children who cannot afford supplies to be educated. With this laptop, there is no longer any need to buy millions of pens, pencils, paper, books for children in the third world. Everything will be wifi online and on that machine. The cost efficiency is great and children are being brought into the technological world like the rest of the world.
The laptop is made of rubber on the outside so it can withstand a lot of impact. It's also tiny and compact. The antennas are also rubber and fold down into the laptop.
The monitor stores the hardware (all flash, no harddrive, no fan) and twists around so you can hold it like a book. Another great feature is the battery life. It can be SOLAR POWERED so kids in Africa are set! Sit by a window and you can charge your computer. And, on battery life, it lasts SIX HOURS!!!
The only give to this thing is that it does not have a DVD burner or CD payer...but that's why the battery life and compactability is so great. It also runs a tad bit slower but it's nothing bad. Programs take a bit longer to start but once it's up, you're fine.
The system is hackable. They purposefully built the system that way so that kids in different parts of the world can change the settings and make it workable to them. Steve Jobs of Mac heard about this is offered to give Mac's operating system to XO for free. However, he was REJECTED because Mac, like Microsoft, is locked and does not let you tamper with the system. How insane is that?! They're opening up the system to the world! There is also a default button that lets you reset the system back to its original setting in case you mess up somewhere in the change.
Find out more about this machine and help a child out at the same time. I'm definitely investing in one becuase my monster laptop can stay home and I can take this tiny one to class to take notes on.
***IMPORTANT***
"Starting November 12, One Laptop Per Child will be offering a Give 1 Get 1 Program for a brief window of time in North America. For $399, you will be purchasing two XO laptops—one that will be sent to empower a child to learn in a developing nation, and one that will be sent to your child at home. "
Some more info on this project: XO Laptop and watch David Pogue, NY Times technology columnist's blog on this:
This is a new innovation of a laptop that can withstand water, dirt, dust, and impact. It is also really small and compact, filled with everything you may need on the go. The BEST part about this computer is that it is designed for thrid world children who cannot afford supplies to be educated. With this laptop, there is no longer any need to buy millions of pens, pencils, paper, books for children in the third world. Everything will be wifi online and on that machine. The cost efficiency is great and children are being brought into the technological world like the rest of the world.
The laptop is made of rubber on the outside so it can withstand a lot of impact. It's also tiny and compact. The antennas are also rubber and fold down into the laptop.
The monitor stores the hardware (all flash, no harddrive, no fan) and twists around so you can hold it like a book. Another great feature is the battery life. It can be SOLAR POWERED so kids in Africa are set! Sit by a window and you can charge your computer. And, on battery life, it lasts SIX HOURS!!!
The only give to this thing is that it does not have a DVD burner or CD payer...but that's why the battery life and compactability is so great. It also runs a tad bit slower but it's nothing bad. Programs take a bit longer to start but once it's up, you're fine.
The system is hackable. They purposefully built the system that way so that kids in different parts of the world can change the settings and make it workable to them. Steve Jobs of Mac heard about this is offered to give Mac's operating system to XO for free. However, he was REJECTED because Mac, like Microsoft, is locked and does not let you tamper with the system. How insane is that?! They're opening up the system to the world! There is also a default button that lets you reset the system back to its original setting in case you mess up somewhere in the change.
Find out more about this machine and help a child out at the same time. I'm definitely investing in one becuase my monster laptop can stay home and I can take this tiny one to class to take notes on.
***IMPORTANT***
"Starting November 12, One Laptop Per Child will be offering a Give 1 Get 1 Program for a brief window of time in North America. For $399, you will be purchasing two XO laptops—one that will be sent to empower a child to learn in a developing nation, and one that will be sent to your child at home. "
Some more info on this project: XO Laptop and watch David Pogue, NY Times technology columnist's blog on this:
Sunday, October 07, 2007
Friday, October 05, 2007
Craig's List
This appeared on Craig's List and I thought it was the funniest thing I've seen in a long time. Make sure you read the guy's response to this. It's hilarious.
Girl's posting:
What am I doing wrong? Okay, I'm tired of beating around the bush. I'm a beautiful (spectacularly beautiful) 25 year old girl. I'm articulate and classy.I'm not from New York.
I'm looking to get married to a guy who makes at least half a million a year. I know how that sounds, but keep in mind that a million a year is middle class in New York City, so I don't think I'm overreaching at all.Are there any guys who make 500K or more on this board? Any wives? Could you send me some tips?
I dated a business man who makes average around 200 - 250K. But that's where I seem to hit a roadblock. 250,000 won't get me to central park west. I know a woman in my yoga class who was married to an investment banker and lives in Tribeca, and she's not as pretty as I am, nor is she a great genius. So what is she doing right? How do I get to her level?Here are my questions specifically:
- Where do you single rich men hang out? Give me specifics. bars,restaurants, gyms
-What are you looking for in a mate? Be honest guys, you won't hurt my feelings
-Is there an age range I should be targeting (I'm 25)?
- Why are some of the women living lavish lifestyles on the upper eastside so plain? I've seen really 'plain jane' boring types who have nothing to offer married to incredibly wealthy guys. I've seen drop dead gorgeous girls in singles bars in the east village. What's the storythere?
- Jobs I should look out for? Everyone knows - lawyer, investment banker, doctor. How much do those guys really make? And where do they hang out? Where do the hedge fund guys hang out?
- How you decide marriage vs. just a girlfriend? I am looking for MARRIAGE ONLY. Please hold your insults
- I'm putting myself out there in an honest way. Most beautiful women are superficial; at least I'm being up frontabout it. I wouldn't be searching for these kind of guys if I wasn't able to match them - in looks, culture, sophistication, and keeping anice home and hearth.
THE ANSWER
Dear Pers-431649184:
I read your posting with great interest and have thought meaningfully about your dilemma. I offer the following analysis of your predicament. Firstly, I'm not wasting your time, I qualify as a guy who fits yourbill; that is I make more than $500K per year. That said here's how I see it.
Your offer, from the prospective of a guy like me, is plain and simple a crappy business deal. Here's why. Cutting through all the B.S., what you suggest is a simple trade: you bring your looks to the party and I bring my money. Fine, simple.
But here's the rub, your looks will fade and my money will likely continue into perpetuity...in fact, it is very likelythat my income increases but it is an absolute certainty that you won't be getting any more beautiful! So, in economic terms you are a depreciating asset and I am an earningasset. Not only are you a depreciating asset, your depreciation accelerates! Let me explain, you're 25 now and will likely stay pretty hot for the next 5 years, but less so each year. Then the fade begins inearnest. By 35 stick a fork in you!
So in Wall Street terms, we would call you a trading position, not a buy and hold...hence the rub...marriage. It doesn't make good business sense to "buy you" (which is what you're asking) so I'd rather lease. In case you think I'm being cruel, I would say the following. If my money were to go away, so would you, so when your beauty fades I need an out. It's as simple as that. So a deal that makes sense is dating, not marriage.Separately, I was taught early in my career about efficient markets. So, I wonder why a girl as "articulate, classy and spectacularly beautiful" as you has been unable to find your sugar daddy. I find it hard tobelieve that if you are as gorgeous as you say you are that the $500K hasn't found you, if not only for a tryout.
By the way, you could always find a way to make your own money and then we wouldn't need to have this difficult conversation. With all that said, I must say you're going about it the right way. Classic "pump and dump."
I hope this is helpful, and if you want to enter into some sort of lease, let me know.
Girl's posting:
What am I doing wrong? Okay, I'm tired of beating around the bush. I'm a beautiful (spectacularly beautiful) 25 year old girl. I'm articulate and classy.I'm not from New York.
I'm looking to get married to a guy who makes at least half a million a year. I know how that sounds, but keep in mind that a million a year is middle class in New York City, so I don't think I'm overreaching at all.Are there any guys who make 500K or more on this board? Any wives? Could you send me some tips?
I dated a business man who makes average around 200 - 250K. But that's where I seem to hit a roadblock. 250,000 won't get me to central park west. I know a woman in my yoga class who was married to an investment banker and lives in Tribeca, and she's not as pretty as I am, nor is she a great genius. So what is she doing right? How do I get to her level?Here are my questions specifically:
- Where do you single rich men hang out? Give me specifics. bars,restaurants, gyms
-What are you looking for in a mate? Be honest guys, you won't hurt my feelings
-Is there an age range I should be targeting (I'm 25)?
- Why are some of the women living lavish lifestyles on the upper eastside so plain? I've seen really 'plain jane' boring types who have nothing to offer married to incredibly wealthy guys. I've seen drop dead gorgeous girls in singles bars in the east village. What's the storythere?
- Jobs I should look out for? Everyone knows - lawyer, investment banker, doctor. How much do those guys really make? And where do they hang out? Where do the hedge fund guys hang out?
- How you decide marriage vs. just a girlfriend? I am looking for MARRIAGE ONLY. Please hold your insults
- I'm putting myself out there in an honest way. Most beautiful women are superficial; at least I'm being up frontabout it. I wouldn't be searching for these kind of guys if I wasn't able to match them - in looks, culture, sophistication, and keeping anice home and hearth.
THE ANSWER
Dear Pers-431649184:
I read your posting with great interest and have thought meaningfully about your dilemma. I offer the following analysis of your predicament. Firstly, I'm not wasting your time, I qualify as a guy who fits yourbill; that is I make more than $500K per year. That said here's how I see it.
Your offer, from the prospective of a guy like me, is plain and simple a crappy business deal. Here's why. Cutting through all the B.S., what you suggest is a simple trade: you bring your looks to the party and I bring my money. Fine, simple.
But here's the rub, your looks will fade and my money will likely continue into perpetuity...in fact, it is very likelythat my income increases but it is an absolute certainty that you won't be getting any more beautiful! So, in economic terms you are a depreciating asset and I am an earningasset. Not only are you a depreciating asset, your depreciation accelerates! Let me explain, you're 25 now and will likely stay pretty hot for the next 5 years, but less so each year. Then the fade begins inearnest. By 35 stick a fork in you!
So in Wall Street terms, we would call you a trading position, not a buy and hold...hence the rub...marriage. It doesn't make good business sense to "buy you" (which is what you're asking) so I'd rather lease. In case you think I'm being cruel, I would say the following. If my money were to go away, so would you, so when your beauty fades I need an out. It's as simple as that. So a deal that makes sense is dating, not marriage.Separately, I was taught early in my career about efficient markets. So, I wonder why a girl as "articulate, classy and spectacularly beautiful" as you has been unable to find your sugar daddy. I find it hard tobelieve that if you are as gorgeous as you say you are that the $500K hasn't found you, if not only for a tryout.
By the way, you could always find a way to make your own money and then we wouldn't need to have this difficult conversation. With all that said, I must say you're going about it the right way. Classic "pump and dump."
I hope this is helpful, and if you want to enter into some sort of lease, let me know.
Thursday, October 04, 2007
6 Misconceptions About Relationships
First. That old pervasive assumption… that people SHOULD BE in a relationship. That belief that says, “relationships are natural, ideal, and what we should all be pursuing”. Not true. In fact, the way most relationships are conducted these days, particularly marriage, I’d have to say they are most unnatural! Now I’m not saying that friendships aren’t natural, nor am I denying that sharing time with a loved one can enhance virtually any experience. But the thought that anything “should” be anything… should stop you in your tracks for 4 reasons:
First of all, there are no “should’s” in time and space, should’s only serve to limit experience whenever they fall outside of our own leanings and desires.
Second, just as there are no 2 people who are the same, neither are any 2 relationships… some have more intimacy, some have less, some create co-dependences, others don’t, some are just for fun, others are like serious workshops… so even if “should’s” were OK, then which kind of relationship should everyone be in… my kind, your kind, who’s kind?
Third, as I’ve said before, everyone learns and has fun in different ways, and for some, more learning and fun can be had by not entering into any kind of a one on one relationship, after all, life is full of learning, growing and playing experiences that have NOTHING to do with being in a relationship. Lastly, the problem with most relationships as they’re now constructed, the kind of relationships that people in general seem to think we “should” all be in, including the present world view on marriage, is that they’re marred by thoughts of possessiveness, and of harmful expectations – of which I’ll talk more about soon.So the presumption that people SHOULD BE in relationships is the first major misconception held by the main stream.
The second misconception, is that great relationships withstand the test of time. Well, since when does a clock, or a calendar, become the measuring unit for love, emotional growth, or happiness? Like in manufacturing… quality is what counts, not quantity, which is not to say that you can’t have a quality relationship that lasts a lifetime, nor am I saying that adversity in a relationship should lead to its abandonment. But these 2 benchmarks, quality and quantity, usually have very little, if anything, to do with one another. What’s important in any relationship is that it be a rewarding experience in terms of either learning or happiness, and when both of these elements are missing, and are believed to be irredeemable, the relationship no longer serves you.
The 3rd misconception about relationships, is that they can make you happy. Or put another way, that having someone in your life can make you happy. Happiness, as is often said, is an inside job. It comes from within, not from external sources or other people. Relationships only intensify whatever you already feel, about yourself and life, other people simply reflect your attitudes about life and yourself, back to you. A happy person entering into a relationship will likely become even happier, and an unhappy person entering into a relationship will likely become even unhappier. But I want to make a distinction here, I just said, and you’ve heard it before, that people just mirror back to you what you already are. But what exactly is being mirrored… not your behaviors, not your looks, not your outer expressions in time and space, but they mirror back your beliefs and the perceptions you have of yourself. That’s why the person with low self esteem is often further abused in relationships. They think of themselves as flawed, unworthy of love and appreciation, or even deserving of punishment... and these thoughts are not only picked up by the other person, but depending on their disposition, may be expressed by the other person, possibly in the form of abuse. It IS a bit more complicated than this, and other beliefs are at play that first attract any 2 people together, but the point here, is that what your bring to the relationship, is what you will take from it, whether it be happiness, sadness, or self-loathing.Along this same vane, it is futile, and unusually dishonest, to enter into, or stay in a relationship believing that it will make the other person happy. How often have you heard people say, “I just want to make you happy.”? Too often! No one is, nor should they pretend to be, in a relationship to make someone else happy. Heck if the other person is unhappy, a more logical reaction, if you truly cared about them, would be to leave that person so that they can figure out their own issues. Leave the relationship if it’s making them unhappy, but that’s easier said than done, because what people really mean when they say, “I just want to make you happy” is, “I just want to be happy, and I won’t be happy, until you’re happy.” Well little more needs to be said when you understand the motivating truth behind the statement, because if their happiness depends on some one else being happy, then they’ve got issues too. Your first objective, for the benefit of yourself and your relationships, is to see that you’re happy, because when you’re happy, the rest of the details in your life will take care of themselves, and usually, though not always, those around you will be happier.
The 4th misconception about many relationships, is that some are meant to be. I’ve already talked about that at length in “The Elixir of Life” when I mentioned the fallacies concerning the notions of soul mates, but nothing in time and space is meant to be, except for what already exists in the present, and all that awaits you based on your ever evolving beliefs and expectations for the future. Tomorrow’s a blank slate, it has to be, otherwise there’d be limits and constraints on our ability to create our own realities.
The 5th misconception about relationships, or about those in them, is that people never change. People do change, we all change everyday. The lives we lead are all about change, people want to change, growing and becoming better and more, all the time, that’s presumably why you’re listening to these recordings, and you will change. So don’t ever write someone off in your life because you think they’ll never change, and similarly, don’t categorize them as being one way or another… because they ARE changing everyday, and your beliefs about them can help, or hurt, their evolution. Categorizing someone will never help, but by seeing the divinity in them, and responding to that divinity, rather than responding to the traits and flaws that might be driving you crazy, you can literally give them a leg up – even when they don’t consciously know what you’re up to.
The 6th misconception about many relationships, is that they have to be worked on. Now, of course, I understand the point trying to be conveyed by that sentiment, but categorizing relationships can be as hurtful as categorizing a person. A firm belief in anything, including the presumption that relationships are “work”, will bring about that reality. The truth is, relationships don’t have characteristics until the people in them define them, they’re not easy or hard, challenging or rewarding, until someone says so. So a bigger truth here is not that relationships are this, that, or the other, it’s that individuals in relationships see them as this, that, or the other… and so they become. Rather than working on their relationship, each person should be working on their perceptions. And, just as bad as defining your present relationship, is defining them in general, because if you do, then all your future ones will be cast in the same light, shaped and defined before you even get to them.......Tallyho,"
First of all, there are no “should’s” in time and space, should’s only serve to limit experience whenever they fall outside of our own leanings and desires.
Second, just as there are no 2 people who are the same, neither are any 2 relationships… some have more intimacy, some have less, some create co-dependences, others don’t, some are just for fun, others are like serious workshops… so even if “should’s” were OK, then which kind of relationship should everyone be in… my kind, your kind, who’s kind?
Third, as I’ve said before, everyone learns and has fun in different ways, and for some, more learning and fun can be had by not entering into any kind of a one on one relationship, after all, life is full of learning, growing and playing experiences that have NOTHING to do with being in a relationship. Lastly, the problem with most relationships as they’re now constructed, the kind of relationships that people in general seem to think we “should” all be in, including the present world view on marriage, is that they’re marred by thoughts of possessiveness, and of harmful expectations – of which I’ll talk more about soon.So the presumption that people SHOULD BE in relationships is the first major misconception held by the main stream.
The second misconception, is that great relationships withstand the test of time. Well, since when does a clock, or a calendar, become the measuring unit for love, emotional growth, or happiness? Like in manufacturing… quality is what counts, not quantity, which is not to say that you can’t have a quality relationship that lasts a lifetime, nor am I saying that adversity in a relationship should lead to its abandonment. But these 2 benchmarks, quality and quantity, usually have very little, if anything, to do with one another. What’s important in any relationship is that it be a rewarding experience in terms of either learning or happiness, and when both of these elements are missing, and are believed to be irredeemable, the relationship no longer serves you.
The 3rd misconception about relationships, is that they can make you happy. Or put another way, that having someone in your life can make you happy. Happiness, as is often said, is an inside job. It comes from within, not from external sources or other people. Relationships only intensify whatever you already feel, about yourself and life, other people simply reflect your attitudes about life and yourself, back to you. A happy person entering into a relationship will likely become even happier, and an unhappy person entering into a relationship will likely become even unhappier. But I want to make a distinction here, I just said, and you’ve heard it before, that people just mirror back to you what you already are. But what exactly is being mirrored… not your behaviors, not your looks, not your outer expressions in time and space, but they mirror back your beliefs and the perceptions you have of yourself. That’s why the person with low self esteem is often further abused in relationships. They think of themselves as flawed, unworthy of love and appreciation, or even deserving of punishment... and these thoughts are not only picked up by the other person, but depending on their disposition, may be expressed by the other person, possibly in the form of abuse. It IS a bit more complicated than this, and other beliefs are at play that first attract any 2 people together, but the point here, is that what your bring to the relationship, is what you will take from it, whether it be happiness, sadness, or self-loathing.Along this same vane, it is futile, and unusually dishonest, to enter into, or stay in a relationship believing that it will make the other person happy. How often have you heard people say, “I just want to make you happy.”? Too often! No one is, nor should they pretend to be, in a relationship to make someone else happy. Heck if the other person is unhappy, a more logical reaction, if you truly cared about them, would be to leave that person so that they can figure out their own issues. Leave the relationship if it’s making them unhappy, but that’s easier said than done, because what people really mean when they say, “I just want to make you happy” is, “I just want to be happy, and I won’t be happy, until you’re happy.” Well little more needs to be said when you understand the motivating truth behind the statement, because if their happiness depends on some one else being happy, then they’ve got issues too. Your first objective, for the benefit of yourself and your relationships, is to see that you’re happy, because when you’re happy, the rest of the details in your life will take care of themselves, and usually, though not always, those around you will be happier.
The 4th misconception about many relationships, is that some are meant to be. I’ve already talked about that at length in “The Elixir of Life” when I mentioned the fallacies concerning the notions of soul mates, but nothing in time and space is meant to be, except for what already exists in the present, and all that awaits you based on your ever evolving beliefs and expectations for the future. Tomorrow’s a blank slate, it has to be, otherwise there’d be limits and constraints on our ability to create our own realities.
The 5th misconception about relationships, or about those in them, is that people never change. People do change, we all change everyday. The lives we lead are all about change, people want to change, growing and becoming better and more, all the time, that’s presumably why you’re listening to these recordings, and you will change. So don’t ever write someone off in your life because you think they’ll never change, and similarly, don’t categorize them as being one way or another… because they ARE changing everyday, and your beliefs about them can help, or hurt, their evolution. Categorizing someone will never help, but by seeing the divinity in them, and responding to that divinity, rather than responding to the traits and flaws that might be driving you crazy, you can literally give them a leg up – even when they don’t consciously know what you’re up to.
The 6th misconception about many relationships, is that they have to be worked on. Now, of course, I understand the point trying to be conveyed by that sentiment, but categorizing relationships can be as hurtful as categorizing a person. A firm belief in anything, including the presumption that relationships are “work”, will bring about that reality. The truth is, relationships don’t have characteristics until the people in them define them, they’re not easy or hard, challenging or rewarding, until someone says so. So a bigger truth here is not that relationships are this, that, or the other, it’s that individuals in relationships see them as this, that, or the other… and so they become. Rather than working on their relationship, each person should be working on their perceptions. And, just as bad as defining your present relationship, is defining them in general, because if you do, then all your future ones will be cast in the same light, shaped and defined before you even get to them.......Tallyho,"
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